Welcome, dear friends, to a sacred season of anticipation the breathtaking adventure of waiting for your perfect match
Here are some of my thoughts about the journey of waiting for a spouse.
Genesis 2:18 The Lord God also said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a suitable helper.”
Psalm 37:4 Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.
A great place to start in looking for a spouse is to look to the Lord and delight in Him. Spend time waiting on Him, worshipping, praying, and reading His word.
Pray that God will prepare you to be the best spouse you can be.
Psalm 51:10-12 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and put a new and right spirit within me. Do not cast me away from your presence and do not take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the Joy of my salvation, and sustain in me a willing spirit.
How do you do that practically? Wait on the lord and ask Him questions, and trust Him He will speak to you. I personally like to journal and write my questions and answers. Another way I have found helpful was to follow the prayers and teachings from Dennis and Jen Clark, from full-stature ministries. You can see them on Sid Roth and they have programs you can do to learn how to abide in Him.
It is also good to sit with God and think of godly qualities that you would like to see in a spouse. A good place to start here is to look for someone who has similar values and faith, as God tells us not to be unequally yoked. A friend of mine a few years ago met a non-Christian man and as she dated him, she stood to her godly principles and did not compromise herself. Now he is a wonderful disciple of Jesus and seeks Him with all his heart.
I chose a Christian man, and although our relationship has had many challenges, I have been pleased to worship with him and share my faith that we could be on the same page in establishing our family.
Choose in advance to start your relationship according to godly ways as laid out in the bible. Be the best person you can be, after spending time with God to heal your heart. Also, make time to be healthy and fit to keep this area in balance.
We are attracted to each other through our physical package, not that the body is all we are, but it is what we appear to the world through. It is good to be healthy and present yourself well. Learn about style and fashion and color to bring out your best self.
And of course, don’t expect that God is going to bring someone to you as you wait at home. Get out there and join healthy groups that you are interested in, tramping, biking, or whatever your passions are. Don’t expect that you will meet a good Christian partner in a bar. Look in healthy places but do look. Perhaps an online Christian group.
And when you meet someone, spend time with them and get to know them. See how they respond in different seasons. Above all, look at their character.
Harville Hendrix in his book, ‘Get the Love You Want” suggests that you will be attracted to someone who is familiar, but also someone who will trigger your inner wounds, and as you journey with them, you both can find your healing. Just remember, there is always work in relationships. Know that and listen to your whole being, when choosing a spouse, be rational, and listen to your heart and also your gut intuition.
Choose life with your whole being and don’t settle for anything less than God’s best.